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Imagine! Turning those one-sided conversations with your son into meaningful communication…

...without the eye-rolls, temper tantrums, or silent treatment!

Discover the three light bulb moments that take you from dreading to eagerly looking forward to the next talk with your son

Imagine! Turning those one-sided conversations with your son into meaningful communication…

...without the eye-rolls, temper tantrums, or silent treatment!

Discover the three light bulb moments that take you from dreading to eagerly looking forward to the next talk with your son

boy talk blueprint

From: the desk of the woman who’s heard it all


To: every tired mama, up a wee bit too late wondering what she could have done differently to engage with her son

I know you’re busy and pulled in all the directions

(seriously, I know what it’s like trying to stuff the sandwich down his throat so you can get to the gym on time for yoga to “de-stress”)–so I’ll keep this brief:

walking on eggshells around your son
  • You don’t have to walk on eggshells, waiting for him to round on you and blow up just because you asked how his day went.
  • ​ And you don’t have to start a convo out with good intentions only to end it with him–or you!–huffing,Fine.
  • ​ You don’t have to dread the next conversation with your son.
  • And you know how sometimes you start talking, only to see his eyes glaze over immediately? You don't need this, either.

In fact, you don’t actually have to do a whole lot to have a productive and meaningful conversation with your son!


(You’ll probably end up doing less!)

but if you don't know the right things to include

and the right things to release...

you could end up watching your son quietly slip away from you, becoming even more distant and lost in his thoughts.

It’s no wonder moms of sons hear the experts, see the movies and think

“what am I doing wrong?”

like so many others

if you've ever thought

and see the movies and think “what am I doing wrong?”

With so many attempts at enjoyable talks with your son,

who can blame you for thinking the next one won’t be any better?

In fact, you don’t actually have to do a whole lot to have a productive and meaningful conversation with your son!


(You’ll probably end up doing less!)

But if you don't know the right things to include and the right things to release...

you could end up watching your son quietly slip away from you

becoming even more distant

and lost in his thoughts.

It's no wonder parents hear the experts or see the movies, and think: "What am I doing wrong?"

Like so man others, if you've ever thought...

but it seems like we’re just walking on eggshells around him all the time”

you are not alone

With so many attempts at enjoyable talks with your son,

who can blame you for thinking the next one won’t be any better?

Moms tell me they've tried:

  • Scolding in the moment
  • Punishments. All the punishments.
  • Meeting his anger with your anger
  • Waiting for a calm time to address an issue–only to forget to revisit it
  • Bribing him, hoping (and failing!) for a calm conversation
  • Asking an easy questionbut never getting an answer
  • Keeping conversation light–only to have him sulk away

As a teacher and mother myself–I’ve been there. I’ve seen it all and done it all only to learn:

You have to be the safe harbor for your son.

You are here to learn to have great discussions with him–AND he needs a few things from you to make that happen.

He needs the talks to be short, easygoing, and active–that’s how HIS brain works best.

And that’s how you can get the best results from your talks, sticking to the S, E, and A.

The SEA Method is the basis of all great discussions

with your son and allows you to be that safe harbor for him–even when talking about the not-so-fun stuff like that chore he keeps avoiding.

TESTIMONIAL

“i had no idea”

One of the biggest takeaways was just learning more about boys! I had no idea that you'll get a better response if you don't look a boy straight in the eye and instead take a side by side position while talking with him!

katie w.

I developed the SEA Method focusing on being the safe harbor for your boy in both the exact ways you’d expect–and a few unlikely ways.

  • With 20+ years teaching and coaching parents
  • I'm a mother of two daughters
  • I have extensive training in Waldorf Education and NLP (neuro-linguistic communication skills)
  • B.S. in Elementary Education

Teaching a class that was 80% boys threw me for a loop! But you know what - it gave me the best real-world experience to be able to say to you:

Parents and teachers today feel underprepared to support boys and the challenges they face and confused about the mixed messages surrounding boys.

janet allison, founder boys alive!

You’re probably here because you’re experiencing the same confusion–

only you don’t have to go it alone!

toss the eggshells aside with...

boy TALK blueprint

The Ultimate Guide to Great Conversations With Your Son

Leave behind the sulky attitude and eye rolls and have real conversations–finally, win over your son where you both leave the convo satisfied with the outcome–in this "aha" approach for families.


Perfect for parents from toddlers to tweens and teens!

This is your shortcut system

to accomplishing what you want in a talk and what he wants, too

(whether it’s a 'tough' subject or 'just' another reminder about taking out the trash). Ultimately, it's about building a long-lasting relationship with your son.

boy talking with mom

you'll learn how to:

  • Prepare yourself–and him–to have a great conversation to make the most of your time and energy
  • Simplify your approach for each age and stage (because it turns out your four-year-old and fourteen-year-old have different needs)
  • What you need to change in yourself to pull out the best in your son even if you feel like you’re doing a great job now
  • Define a “good” talk (so you know exactly when to pursue and when to let it rest)
  • Become a skillful question poser–we ask questions all the time, but are we asking the RIGHT questions?
  • Set the stage for the most boy-friendly way to capture–and keep–their attention
  • Become a “word wizard” and choose your boy’s own words that will have the most positive impact on your talks

Hone in on the must-have top boy tips that make

everything else easier and

enjoy productive conversations with your son–

without the stress.

TESTIMONIAL

“it's always an important reminder”

"I liked hearing that boys/men can often talk more engagingly while moving. I feel it is always an important reminder to keep in the forefront of my brain."

stacey

What’s Included.

01.

the great talk defined

  • Prepare yourself ahead of time to have great conversations with your son
  • The 3 pillars to a great talk
02.

The Expectations

  • The “before you start” guide every parent needs to know
  • Why “change your expectations, change your results” is more true than ever for our boys
03.

The TALK Blueprint

  • How to blend your parent-speak with his boy-talk in a way that works for both of you
  • How to avoid the white noise pitfalls that lose his attention
  • The word-choice wonder of staying present and positive

04.

the tool pitstop

  • Turn what makes him tick into what helps you connect
  • The ages and stages guide to communicating at your son’s developmental level
  • The “word wizard” tricks to changing your son’s attitude–even if you can’t imagine that yet
  • Boy “top tips” that make everything else–including discussions–easier. For you and him!
  • Skillful questions–there's a reason they work so well!
  • How to release the things that make you feel like you're turning into YOUR parent when you talk to your son

The Eggshells-No-More Guarantee

If you go through The Boy TALK Blueprint and don’t experience a marked improvement in discussions with your son, you deserve your money back.


If you don’t experience less-stress conversations after following the hallmarks of a great talk and feel a deeper relationship with your son, I’ll issue you a refund–simply send an email to janet@boysalive.com and I’ll happily give your money back.

Plus, even more

Being a boy parent can be a delight–and often is! YET, there are things that get in the way of feeling that delight. Here are bonus materials to help in those times:

Boys & School

No matter what kind of school he is in, you can be the advocate your son needs with this checklist of boy-friendly classroom strategies.


Includes podcast audio and transcript giving you the ins & outs of working with his teachers.

Strategize Your Support Checklist

YOU are the best support system your son can ever have, and with this checklist you can ensure you're offering the most support possible–in the areas that actually help him thrive.

Best Mom/Dad Ever Journal Prompts

So much of parenting is a mental thing and studies have proven journaling helps you process your thoughts in a way just thinking about them or having conversations cannot. Here you’ll gain access to my best journal prompts to help you hit that “best parent ever” goal.

Grab The Ultimate Guide to

Great Conversations With Your Son

boy talk blueprint

The Hallmarks of a Great Talk (Valued at $29)


Set the Stage (Valued at $29)


Boy TALK Reminders (Valued at $27)


Boy TALK Step-by-step (Valued at $97)

Bonus: Boys and School (Valued at $27)


Bonus: Practical Strategies Checklist (Valued at $10)


Bonus: Be the Best Boy-Mom & Boy-Dad EVER (Valued at $17)

Total Value = $253

Today’s Price = $37

Don't let another week go by with you wondering, "I don't know what my son is thinking!"

So many parents see the warning signs of a son growing *slightly* more distant

and they think it’s going to turn around on its own–


When in reality, a few key changes can completely transform your relationship with your son...

The small investment in The Boy TALK Blueprint can be the key that moves you from “I really just don’t know what he’s thinking” to “We’re on the same page about his goals and desires.”

get on the same page...

FRUSTRATION ETC....


And it can help you leave behind that cringy feeling–eek!–when you say the wrong things and watch his eyes shutter, knowing you lost another opportunity to know your son.

TESTIMONIAL

"now he can focus on what I'm saying"

"I've been very mindful regarding short, simple statements and also not expecting/asking Oliver to multitask. For example, instead of trying to push through and deliver a message to him when I can see he's busy and then creating a struggle, I am waiting until he is done with that task and now he can focus on what I'm saying. Thank you!"

sARAH Z

TESTIMONIAL

“relatable and trustable”

“You bring a youthfulness to wisdom that youth doesn’t have. You carry a confidence and assuredness that makes you relatable and trustable simply with your presence and then your clear, unrushed delivery creates space for receiving your wisdom.”

Carol Downing

Frequently Asked Questions.

How much time will this take me?

My goal for you isn’t to spend a ton of time learning. It’s to spend quality time with your son!


Combined, the training in this blueprint will take you about an hour to work through–and with the optional worksheets and tools you’ll still not need too many extra minutes.


That said, some of these techniques will take practice. It’s not about how much time–what would you be willing to invest for a lifetime of great talks? You’ll choose one or two strategies to work with and form that good habit. Then you can come back and learn another strategy.

How fast can I expect to see results?

You can implement some of the tools right away and start experiencing better conversations just by having them at the right time! Just like any behavior, though, real change takes place over time and you’ll see results stack upon each other in time.


Oh and P.S? These talk techniques aren’t just for your son. They’re great for men and work relationships, too!

Is everything available immediately?

Everything I’ve shared on this page is available, right now for you, just on the other side of the checkout page. My goal for you? Start having great conversations with your son now.

Will I need any extra training to have great talks?

The only “extra” you’ll need is the opportunity to test these strategies with your son.


Just like some kids love bananas and some kids can’t get away from them fast enough, some strategies will have better results with your kid and others may be best for a different boy. They’re all tried and true. Now it’s time for you to make them true for you!

Whether your son is three or thirteen,

The Boy TALK Blueprint’s pillars are solid

and will help you not only have more productive conversations with your boy, but enjoy them, too.

What a concept, knowing that talking to your son about the trivial things AND the tough things can follow the same format!

You don’t have to be a parenting guru, read 17 books, subscribe to countless podcasts and run the PTA to have a meaningful conversation with your son. You just need to know a few key strategies–and you can apply them anytime.


With the Eggshells-No-More guarantee, there’s virtually no risk. Use the Blueprint to gain the relationship with your son you’ve always longed for!


Grab The Ultimate Guide to

Great Conversations With Your Son

boy talk blueprint

The Hallmarks of a Great Talk (Valued at $29)


Set the Stage (Valued at $29)


Boy TALK Reminders (Valued at $27)


Boy TALK Step-by-step (Valued at $97)

Bonus: Boys and School (Valued at $27)


Bonus: Practical Strategies Checklist (Valued at $10)


Bonus: Be the Best Boy-Mom & Boy-Dad EVER (Valued at $17)

Total Value = $253

Today’s Price = $37

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